10 thoughts about being in my 30s

I’m always reflective around my birthday. It’s pretty close to what was (and still is for many!) the school year so that sense of an opportunity for a refresh starts to come to mind. It’s also a marker for a new year just for me and a chance to look back and see how things have gone. I wrote about turning 30 last year and I was inspired by Becky’s post to write about what actually being in my 30s has felt like so far, since I’ve just turned 31!


  1. My obsession with time has only got bigger. I’m alway saying, “woah where did the time go?” and “It’s been too long!” to people. Days no longer seem to stretch out before me but go by in a flash whilst I preciously try to hold on to the memories and important moments.
  2. What seemed like something far in the future is suddenly around the corner. When I was in my 20s home-owning seemed like a lifetime away, now I’m closer to actually taking those first steps and can even say “next year I might own my own home”. Does this mean I’m about to become a responsible adult?! Scary.
  3. Family has become a priority again for everyone. Not that family hasn’t always been important but I probably prioritised my weekends according to spending as much time as possible having fun with my friends. Now I try to get much more of a balance and I see my friends doing the same too.
  4. Weddings are going to be my main social events for a few years. We went to 5 weddings last year, have 7 weddings this year and 3 likely weddings next year already. It can feel a little overwhelming, particularly on the financial front, and the lack of time or weekend lie ins can feel frustrating. But as soon as I’m there and can see my friend’s beaming face it all fades away. I’m just about coming to terms with the fact that this is the ‘wedding season’ of my life.
  5. The social calendar is carefully scheduled and rarely impromptu. Weddings often take care of this, but throw in everyone else trying to juggle weddings, friends and family and you have to be ruthlessly organised to see people outside a celebratory occasion.
  6. I need to find a way to get used to being constantly busy. I love being busy but I like time to myself too and I don’t feel like I get as much of that as I once did. I have a feeling life doesn’t slow down so I’ve just got to find a way to be OK and fit in some me time.
  7. I can no longer rely on my metabolism to maintain my weight. I’ve never had a big appetite but I’ve always had a sweet tooth, so I rarely hold off on eating desserts. I’ve realised recently that I have to do a lot more than cutting back to maintain my weight. So my next goal is to try and make exercise a habit.
  8. Facebook is getting close to showing memories from a decade ago, which is a little bit scary. Anyone else join sometime in 2006 or 2007?
  9. I well up so much more than I did in my early 20s. I well up at every wedding these days and I even found myself welling up at the Olympic medal ceremonies recently. I don’t remember being quite so affected by emotions, but perhaps it’s just a  development from getting tearful watching films like The Notebook.
  10. A lot can change in 12 months. I was doing a piece of work last week which I felt quite pleased about. (Let’s just say my first attempt at this last year wasn’t so successful.) When I added this to some nice feedback I had recently, it made me realise that I’ve come a long way in some things over just the last year.

I’m not really worried about getting older at the moment and I’m pretty excited about what the rest of my 30s might have in store. (p.s. I promise I won’t do this for every birthday going forward 😉 )



  1. August 23, 2016 / 9:59 pm

    Oh I can relate to so much of this (except the wedding bit, for me that happened ages ago- the summer when I went to 7 weddings was when I was 27! There’s hardly any now as everyone seems to have done it already and are now onto kids!) But I agree so much with how fast time passes now and also having to schedule your social calendar- my next fully free weekends are in November!!!!

    Oh and I still love that Uniqlo dress!

    • ThisCityLifeLondon
      August 26, 2016 / 9:09 am

      Ha it’s true that the time thing is just how it is now then! I have the odd free weekend in September which I’m excited about. November is crazy! You’ll be on to pre-Christmas plans then 😉 xx

  2. September 3, 2016 / 6:26 am

    Responsible adulting – whoop whoop! Definitely can’t believe how quickly time goes now and how booked up weekends are. But it’s fun to be busy most of the time, I just have to remember to occasionally schedule a lie-in too!

    • ThisCityLifeLondon
      September 3, 2016 / 7:53 am

      Yes scheduled lie-ins are the key! I’ve got my first free weekend this weekend and I’m going to make the most of it. ☺️